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Table Manners: Back to Basics, Teaching Kids Table Manners | Wednesday’s In the Know

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I was around 10 or 12 when my mom asked if I would be interested in attending a Miss Manners event held at the gorgeous Fairmont Olympic Hotel in Downtown Seattle, Washington. I’m not sure if the word “overnight” sold me, or that fact it was at the Fairmont hotel, but regardless, we packed my best party dress, white gloves, ties for my outrageously curly hair, that’s a whole story on its own, and headed downtown. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but as most 10 years old are excited about new adventures and overnights, I was ready for what was to come.

We spent the day learning how to set the table, fold napkins, proper placement of glasses and the bread and butter plate, and how to serve and pass food around the table. Lucky for me, I was being instilled with these lessons as a toddler knowing not to leave my chair during dinner, how to keep my napkin on my lap, which silverware to use when, no elbows on the table, chewing with my mouth closed, etc. etc. etc.

So, here we are 25 years later, amazed at what I see when I go out to eat. Kids, running around restaurants with no supervision which is not only disrupting to the guests nearby, but dangerous. “Yes, your child is adorable but not when I am trying to enjoy a nice evening and they are running around roaring like tigers.” Think of all the hot trays of coffee and food coming to and from the kitchen and your child serving as a major tripping hazard.  I cannot even imagine doing–nor getting away with–that when I was a child.

I’m often asked for tips on getting kids to not only try new foods, which I talked about a few weeks ago (Click HERE for the direct link), but also how to teach table manners. Great question, I wish more people asked!

Here are a few of my top tips:

  • Please and Thank You: Always a good place to start, make sure you are reinforcing the please and thank you at the dinner table.
  • Don’t Bribe Kids: Never tell them to sit and be good or no dessert. Kids should know when certain behaviors are allowed, think indoor and outdoor voice, and should be reinforced with good behavior for doing good things! Plus, kids shouldn’t have restaurant size desserts every single night, it’s just not healthy!
  • Make it Short and Sweet: Kids patience level, let’s face it, is small! Don’t expect them to still during your 5-course meal. That’s not setting anyone up for success.
  • Give them an Activity: I whole heartedly don’t agree with putting an iPhone or iPad in front of kids because it’s getting them hooked on TV. Instead, bring coloring books, reading books or other activity books for them to play with, and get the whole family to engage. This way, they are learning while the whole family is coming together. I just hate seeing families at dinner with each kid on their own device with no engagement. Family time around a meal is such a great way to check in with everyone. Make this time count!
  • Make it Fun! Teaching can be fun if done in the right way. Don’t demand, but ask questions which get them to come to the conclusion in their own. Always reinforce by also showcasing good table manners so your children have an example to emulate.
  • Miss Manner Classes: I am sure they still exist and they are so fun! Kids are with other kids learning these life skills in a non-threatening fun way. Then, it’s up to you to reinforce at home and make sure everyone is on the same page.

Take advantage of good manners while contributing to “family time:”

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Create a positive eating experience.

Kids can display poor table manners because they’re not enjoying themselves (Read: tired, ignored, over-stimulated). Consider the following ways you can make meal times more pleasant:

  • Engage everyone in conversation. Mealtimes at our house usually involve my husband and I discussing topics between each other, sometimes at the cost of ignoring our little guy. While he should definitely be exposed to adult conversation (so he can pick up new words and realize that his parents’ lives extend much farther than coloring and play dough), he should also be included in the conversation. We’ll do this either by talking to his level and explaining what we’re discussing, or asking one another, including him, how our day had gone.
  • Ask kids to help at the dinner table. They’ll love helping and handling real, adult items like the salt shaker and napkins, as well as helping to set the table.
  • Discuss food. With conversations and meals going hand in hand, directing the focus back towards the food on our plate keeps kids engaged and present in what they’re doing. Ask your child what her favorite part of the meal is. Discuss the colors in the food, the textures, the smells.
  • Establish the importance of family dinners. Making a routine of gathering together for dinner has been cited for improved vocabulary and less obesity, just to name a few of the many benefits of this simple ritual.

Here is a better look at what we can be teaching our kids at each age level:

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Age 3 – 5:

What to Teach

  • To sit at the table — sit, no wiggling or wandering around — for about 15 to 30 minutes.
  • To wait until everyone is seated to start eating. Simple as that.
  • How to use a napkin. First, show your kid how to place it in her lap when she sits down. Next, show her how to use it — ahem, not her sleeve — to wipe her mouth and replace it on her lap. “Once you’ve explained the basics, just say ‘napkin’ — your kids will know what to do without things getting negative,” says Jones.
  • How to chew with their mouth closed. “Take a bite of food and chew with a wide-open mouth so your kid sees all the mashed-up food. Ask, ‘Is this grossing you out? That’s why we chew with our mouth closed.’ It explains the rules in a light, fun way,” says Jones.
  • The polite way to ask for food: “Please pass the potatoes” rather than “I want more potatoes.”
  • Not to make comments like “Yuck!” Preschoolers often don’t understand the concept of hurt feelings — so just tell your child it’s not nice to say bad things about the food. Have them say: “I don’t really care for this.”

Ages 6 to 7

Fine-Tune

This is the age when kids learn how their actions affect other people (and vice versa), which can help them understand the whys behind manners.

What To Teach

  • How to use a knife. By now, kids have developed the fine motor skills necessary to cut their own food. Show them how to gently slice back and forth, rather than stabbing at the chicken.
  • Why it’s not appropriate to make negative comments about the food. Around first grade, kids really start to get the whole empathy thing — and you can explain how saying “Eeeeww!” can hurt the cook’s feelings, says Jones.
  • How to dispose of food you don’t like. “The rule is that it goes out the way it went in,” says Post Senning. “So if your child used their fork to take a bite of asparagus, the asparagus goes quietly back to the plate on the fork.”
  • To thank the person who prepared the meal.

Ages 8 to 10

Build Skills

By now your child is flying solo a lot more (going to sleepovers, heading to a neighbor’s house to hang), which makes it an ideal time to talk about how he should behave as a guest — and host.

What To Teach

  • To be a good host: Offer your guests something to eat and drink and never eat something without first serving it to friends.
  • Cell phones and other electronic devices are not allowed at the table. Mealtime is a social occasion, and having your face buried in Minecraft does not count as socializing.
  • How to serve and pass food at the table. Teach things like using the serving spoon — not her own spoon — to dish from a common bowl. Also, if someone asks her to pass the bread, she should hand over the bread basket, not just a single slice.

And, if you’re on a date with someone that clearly hasn’t taken Miss Manners class, forward them this link or you better start thinking through that second date! J

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Sincerely,

 

Tiffany Lewis

Founder and true believer in the power of bringing people around The Table Together!

 

Preventing Picky Eater's: The Experts Weigh in! | Wednesday's in the Know

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Photo: Getty Image Stock

We have all been there! A relaxing evening turns into a “I DON’T WANT THAT!” Today, I offer some top strategies for preventing picky eaters while setting yourself for success! 

My Top 5:

1.     Start Young: It’s best to start when young, but it’s never too late! Sorry, that “I give up” excuse won’t fly with me! 

2.     Be a Positive Example: Kids eat by example so if you’re not eating it, why should they?

3.     Make it Taste & Look Good: If it doesn’t taste or look good, can you really blame them? Food should be fun, delicious, nutritious and exciting.  For starters, think about serving their meal on a cool fun plate or placemat to make it “fun.”

4.     Preference vs. Picky:  Yes, we all have preferences of what we like and dislike, put cilantro in front of me I wouldn’t want to eat it, but often kids don’t know what they don’t like and can discover delicious new flavors if they are encouraged and know there isn’t another option or choice.

5.     One Family, One Meal!  Kids–when of appropriate age–should be eating what the entire family is eating! You start making modifications now, kids know they have a choice and differentiating picky vs. preference will become a very fine line! 

Now, that’s my two-cents. Here are a few key strategies for eliminating picky eaters from the pro’s! 

Dr. Tanya Altmann, Today show:

1.     For kids who aren’t big fans of fruits and veggies: Serve your family those things, eat them yourself, and consider your job done. Your job is not to force your child to eat it, just to prepare and serve it.

2.     Don’t micromanage how your child eats. You (the parent) put the food on the table. The child is in charge of how much she will eat and if she wants to eat at all.

3.     Avoid the 2 Bs: bribing and begging! I once heard someone advise offering a child $20 to try a new food — what a terrible (and expensive) idea! Don’t bribe your child to eat. Don’t beg them, either!

4.     Keep trying. It can take at least a dozen times (even just on the plate) for an older toddler or child to accept a new food.

5.     Don’t worry about the actual amount of vegetables being consumed. Instead, throw your energy into making delicious meals and snacks that include yummy veggies.

6.     For kids who will only eat fast food or fried or battered chicken, learn to cook the chicken or other foods at home, and set a frequency limit on how often you will allow yourself to buy those items. It can also be helpful to have a “washout” period where you completely stop going to the desired restaurant for a few weeks.

7.     Very small kids shouldn’t be controlling what you buy and make! Just change what you buy at the grocery store. When my kids were very young and would ask about a certain brand, I’d tell them the store had been out of it.

8.     For cereal, dump it all out of the colorful boxes and into clear hard plastic, tall cereal containers. This is especially helpful for kids who love the characters on sugar-sweetened cereal boxes.

9.     Understand that most food marketed to kids hooks them in every way. They love the taste, the packaging, the sameness (the fact that it always looks and tastes the same), the reliability and the excitement of bright foods made with artificial colors. Instead, buy foods with short ingredient lists and without artificial colors.

10.     Don’t cater to your picky eater. Though you can’t always change your child’s preferences, what you can change is your response to him or her. Make and serve one meal. I promise: eventually, you will have a kid who enjoys eating all sorts of food!

American Heart Association:

1.     Start by introducing healthier elements into foods that your child already likes. For example, offer blueberry pancakes, carrot muffins, fruit slices over a favorite cereal, chunks of bell pepper in a potato salad, or shredded veggies over rice.

2.     Include your kids in the prep work. By being involved in grocery shopping and food preparation, your kids will have more ‘buy-in.’ If they feel some ownership over the meal, they may be more likely to eat it.

3.     Don’t buy unhealthy foods. Out of sight, out of mind. If the chips and cookies aren’t around, your kids can’t eat them. They may resist at first, but when they get hungry, they’ll start munching the carrot sticks. Keep healthy foods on hand — 100 percent juice instead of colas or sugary drinks, and a bag of apples instead of a bag of chips.

4.     Schedule snack time and stick to it. Most kids like routine. If your kids know they will only get food at certain times, they’ll eat what they get when they get it. Try to have snacks incorporate two food groups. For example, offer cheese and whole-grain crackers or apple slices with low-fat yogurt or cottage cheese.

5.     Have healthy finger foods available. Kids like to pick up foods, so give them foods they can handle. Fruit and veggie chunks (raw or cooked) are great finger-food options.

6.     Repeal the “clean your plate” rule. Kids know when they’re full, so let them stop. Overeating is one of the major reasons we get too many calories.

7.     Encourage kids to “eat their colors.” This game works well with younger kids. Food that’s bland in color often also lacks nutrients. Eating a variety of brightly colored foods provides more nutrients in greater variety.

8.     Don’t cut out treats altogether. Think moderation. A scoop of ice cream or a serving of Oreos is all right occasionally. If you cut out all the goodies, your kids will be more likely to overeat when they do get them. Make sure to moderate the treat consumption.

9.     Veg out at the dinner table, not the TV. Eating in front of the TV is distracting, and kids may not notice that they’re full because they’re wrapped up in the show. Eating as a family is a great time to catch up.

10.  Be a good role model. The best way to influence kids is by example. Don’t expect them to eat spinach if you won’t touch it.

Mayo Clinic:

1.      Respect your child's appetite — or lack of one: If your child isn't hungry, don't force a meal or snack. Likewise, don't bribe or force your child to eat certain foods or clean his or her plate. This might only ignite — or reinforce — a power struggle over food. In addition, your child might come to associate mealtime with anxiety and frustration or become less sensitive to his or her own hunger and fullness cues. Serve small portions to avoid overwhelming your child and give him or her the opportunity to independently ask for more.

2.     Stick to the routine: Serve meals and snacks at about the same times every day. You can provide milk or 100 percent juice with the food, but offer water between meals and snacks. Allowing your child to fill up on juice, milk or snacks throughout the day might decrease his or her appetite for meals

3.     Be patient with new foods: Young children often touch or smell new foods, and might even put tiny bits in their mouths and then take them back out again. Your child might need repeated exposure to a new food before he or she takes the first bite. Encourage your child by talking about a food's color, shape, aroma and texture — not whether it tastes good. Serve new foods along with your child's favorite foods.

4.     Make it fun: Serve broccoli and other veggies with a favorite dip or sauce. Cut foods into various shapes with cookie cutters. Offer breakfast foods for dinner. Serve a variety of brightly colored foods.

5.     Recruit your child's help: At the grocery store, ask your child to help you select fruits, vegetables and other healthy foods. Don't buy anything that you don't want your child to eat. At home, encourage your child to help you rinse veggies, stir batter or set the table.

6.     Set a good example: If you eat a variety of healthy foods, your child is more likely to follow suit.

7.     Be creative: Add chopped broccoli or green peppers to spaghetti sauce, top cereal with fruit slices, or mix grated zucchini and carrots into casseroles and soups.

8.     Minimize distractions: Turn off the television and other electronic gadgets during meals. This will help your child focus on eating. Keep in mind that television advertising might also encourage your child to desire sugary or less nutritious foods.

9.     Don't offer dessert as a reward: Withholding dessert sends the message that dessert is the best food, which might only increase your child's desire for sweets. You might select one or two nights a week as dessert nights, and skip dessert the rest of the week — or redefine dessert as fruit, yogurt or other healthy choices.

10.  Don't be a short-order cook: Preparing a separate meal for your child after he or she rejects the original meal might promote picky eating. Encourage your child to stay at the table for the designated mealtime — even if he or she doesn't eat. Keep serving your child healthy choices until they become familiar and preferred.

All in all, as the Mayo Clinic advises, “If you're concerned that picky eating is compromising your child's growth and development, consult your child's doctor. He or she can plot your child's growth on a growth chart. In addition, consider recording the types and amounts of food your child eats for three days. The big picture might help ease your worries. A food log can also help your child's doctor determine any problems. In the meantime, remember that your child's eating habits won't likely change overnight — but the small steps you take each day can help promote a lifetime of healthy eating.” Mayo Clinic

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Sincerely,

Tiffany Lewis

Founder and true believer in the power of bringing people around The Table Together!

Kumquats: Now Hitting Markets Near You! | Wednesday’s In the Know

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Kumquats, part of the citrus family, pack quite a powerful citrusy “punch.” The kind where your mouth puckers and eyes squint. The kind where you question whether you were supposed to eat them raw, peel and all, but realize the sensation–however strong–is quite delicious and you may just want another. Introducing, kumquats.

History:

  • Originally from China, kumquats have been cultivated in other Asian countries and throughout the world. In the US, most kumquats are grown in California, Florida, and Texas. The two most common varieties are the oval Nagami kumquats and the round, slightly sweeter Marumi kumquats. – TheKitchn.Com

The Skinny:

  • The fruits may be small, but they pack quite a punch. Eaten peel and all, kumquats are sweet on the outside and piercingly tart on the inside. They can be eaten raw (try them in salads), candied, made into jams and relishes, added to drinks, and cooked.
  • Cooking kumquats mellows the acidity a bit, and they can brighten up savory tofu, meat, and seafood dishes.
  • They also work particularly well in dishes with rich spices like ginger, cinnamon, or star anise. – TheKitchn.Com. And, Melissa’s Produce even recommends trying them in frostings, candied, or used in preserves, stuffings, cakes, and muffins.

 Shopping For:

  • When shopping, choose fruits that are bright orange, firm, and fragrant. Store kumquats at room temperature for a few days or in a bag in the refrigerator for up to a couple of weeks. – TheKitchn.Com

 Eating Kumquats:

  1. Make sure they are ripe! Ripe kumquats range from bright orange to yellow-orange. Stay away from greenish, unripe fruits. The skin should be nice and firm, free of blemishes or shriveled areas. – WikiHow.com
  2.  Thoroughly Wash: No matter where you got the kumquat, rub the peel under cool, running water. Since the peel is edible, you don't want any traces of pesticides or dirt on the surface. Pat the fruit dry with a paper towel. – WikiHow.com
  3. Rub or Roll the Kumquat: Some say that rubbing or squeezing the fruit between your fingers helps it release the sweet, citrus-like scent of the rind. – WikiHow.com
  4. Remove the Seeds: The seeds are not poisonous, but they have the same bitter taste as orange seeds. If you're feeling dainty, slice the kumquat in half and pluck out the seeds. You can easily spit the seeds out as you eat instead, or even chew them up if you don't mind the flavor.
  5. Enjoy! Unusually, kumquats have a sweet rind and sour flesh. Nibble the end of the kumquat to taste the rind first. Once you encounter the mouth-puckering juice, you can either keep nibbling cautiously, or pop the whole fruit in your mouth. If you can stand it, the explosive wedding ceremony between tart and sweet is unique in the fruit world.
  • Some kumquat species are less sour than others, or have a thicker peel. If the flavor doesn't impress you, try to find a different type, or use the fruits in cooking.
  •  If you hate the sour taste, squeeze out the juice and eat the peel by itself. – WikiHow.com

Health Benefits:

  • Stimulates immune system
  • Aids in weight loss
  • Helps to enhance energy level
  • Aids in preventing diabetes

 Nutrition: 

  • Vitamin C: 73%
  • Dietary Fibers: 28%
  • Iron: 4%
  • Calcium: 6%

Season:

  • Given today is the first of February, I thought the timing couldn’t be more perfect! Kumquats are at their prime starting in February but may be tricky to find unless you live in a citrus state. However hard they may be to find at your local farmer’s market, make sure you keep an eye for them at your local grocery store or check our Melissa’s Produce for direct shipment!

For other terrific tips and hundreds of recipes, visit my website (thetabletogether.com). While there, consider “subscribing” and I will send a new tip or blog post directly to your inbox every Tuesday and Wednesday morning!

P.S. Make sure you check out my YouTube channel, The Table Together with Tiffany Lewis, solely dedicated to bringing all of these fantastic tips and recipes to life!

Cheers to starting a new tradition around The Table Together!

Sincerely,

Tiffany Lewis

Founder and true believer in the power of bringing people around The Table Together!

 

Asian Pears: The Secret Life of an Asian Pear | Wednesday’s In the Know

It looks like an apple but tastes and has the consistency of a pear. Just what is this that I am enjoying?

As Melissa’s Produce states on their website, “Asian Pear is the generic name for over 25 different varieties of this "true pear." Although the outside appearance of each Asian Pear may differ, all Asian Pears are crunchy, juicy and sweet. Thought to originally come to the United States via Chinese immigrants, most Asian Pears are now grown in California, Oregon, and Washington.” – Melissa’s Produce

To demystify the sweet (pun intended) truth behind the infamous Asian Pear, I encourage you to read on…

Season:

  • Asian pears have a very short lifespan at the markets so start looking for them when the kiddos go back to school in September and straight through holiday break in December. You may find them before or after, but keep your eye on them as the quality may not be as “prime” as during their peak season.

Taste:

  • Sweet, juicy and crisp! A winning trio!

Appearance:

  • Asian pears are true pears, but in terms of figure, they look more like apples. They tend to be round and so plump that you want to cup them in your hands and just stare at their lightly speckled skin for a moment before you take the first juicy bite. – Food52
  • As with most things in life though, there are exceptions: Some Chinese varieties of Asian pears have the standard pyriform, or pear-shaped, figure that we associate with European pears. And Asian pears can have considerable variation in their skin too: Some varieties have smooth skin, and although we often think of them as a warm sandy brown (1, below), they can also come in shades of yellow, green, and reddish. – Food52
  • If you hear someone refer to an Asian pear as “russeted” (this condition isn’t limited to Asian pears -- European pears and apples can have russeting too), this term refers to the skin having a slightly rough texture that is often described as “corky” or “net-like.” Russeting is brownish in color, and can cover just a small patch or an entire fruit. It’s a naturally occurring condition on some varieties of apples and pears, but it can also be a result of weather conditions. – Food52

What to look for?

  • Given Asian pears ripen on the tree, they are ready to enjoy immediately. If you aren’t going to eat them right away, they will keep great in your fridge for a few months – of course, depending on the state in which you bought them. Just make sure you bring them to room temperature before enjoying to maximize on their full potential.
  • Asian pears are usually sold in a foam netting (pictured above) sleeve that protects them from getting bruised. So, if some are gently nestled in the netting and others aren’t, opt for those that are!
  • Gently touch the Asian pears and feel for a hard exterior with no soft spots which indicate bruising and a “mushy” texture. They should also look smooth with no noticeable blemishes or signs of intrusion from our friends in nature.

Uses:

  • Enjoy as is as you would an apple or pear: Slice and snack raw straight from your hand! No peeling needed, now how easy – and delicious – is that!

Extra Uses:

Ok, you got carried away and have more Asian pears than you know what to do with. Leave it to Food52 to come in and save the day! Here are a few of their great tips for making some delicious bites – and sips – while putting excess Asian pear’s to their fullest potential:

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Sincerely,

 

Tiffany Lewis

Founder and true believer in the power of bringing people around The Table Together!

 

Wax vs. Parchment Paper. What's The Difference? | Wednesday’s In the Know

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Photo: Royal Icing Diaries

Have you ever wondered what the difference between wax and parchment paper is? They appear to look the same, both are white, paper based and heck, why should I have to buy a whole roll of parchment paper when I already have wax? Hmm! Yes, they both are great for offering a nonstick surface, sifting onto or even covering your counter top as you measure dry ingredients, but there are very specific differences that can make a world of difference, especially when it comes to baking.

Before you take the liberty to make what you think is a simple swap, think again and read on

Wax Paper: Wax paper is just that, a paper with a thin coating of wax on each side. Wax paper, similar to parchment paper, offers a nonstick surface but is not heat-resistant. Worse case scenario, wax paper can melt or even catch on fire if placed in the oven. And, do you really want to cook your veggies with a side of wax?

Parchment Paper: Treated specifically to withstand high temperatures in the oven, Parchment paper is a kitchen “work-horse” offering a nonstick surface with easy peasy cleanup while protecting your pans! Parchment paper is usually purchased in a roll (grocery store), but you can also find them pre-cut into rectangles fitted for a standard baking sheet (most major grocery stores), or pre-cut into 8-inch or 9-inch rounds for your cake pans (kitchen store).                      

For other terrific tips and hundreds of recipes, visit my website (thetabletogether.com). While there, consider “subscribing” and I will send a new tip or blog post directly to your inbox every Tuesday and Wednesday morning!

P.S. Make sure you check out my YouTube channel, The Table Together with Tiffany Lewis, solely dedicated to bringing all of these fantastic tips and recipes to life!

Cheers to starting a new tradition around The Table Together!

 

Sincerely,

 

Tiffany Lewis

Founder and true believer in the power of bringing people around The Table Together!

Setting the Table | Wednesday’s In the Know!

When it comes to entertaining, there are many things we must think about. From selecting the flower arrangements, to creating the playlist, choosing wines to accompany, and even a signature cocktail, oh and wait, the menu, we must capture all these details for a successful evening!  One thing that is often forgotten about till the last minute, or simply not paid much attention to at all, is setting the table. However important this step may be, if not one of the most important details for setting the evening’s tone, is something so often overlooked. Today, I am going to show you how to quickly and properly set the table while providing some tips on doing so in a fun, festive and celebratory manner regardless of the celebrations at hand.

Setting the Table: A skill we should all know, a proper place setting is one sure way to impress your guests while letting them know you were expecting their company and are ready for the evenings gathering. Here is a quick rundown:

Plates: In order from bottom to top:

  • Charger:  If using, a charger adds a sophisticated touch to the evening, even if the evening doesn’t require one.
  • Dinner Plate: Your main dinner plate.
  • Salad Plate: If serving.
  • Soup Bowl: If serving.

Bread Plate:

  • Top left corner of your dinner plate with the butter knife on top.
  • Tip to remember which side: Make a “b” by pressing your thumb and pointer finger together. Whichever hand makes a “b” (left hand vs. right hand) that’s the side of the dinner plate the bread and butter plate should be. Answer? It’s your left hand as your right hand makes a “d”.

Silverware: Always set the silverware from the outside in (toward the dinner plate) in the order they accompany each course. For example, if serving a salad, the salad fork should be to the far left as it is the first fork that will be used. Next up, dinner fork to its’ right.

  •  Forks: Left side of the dinner plate.
  • Knives & Spoons: To the right of the dinner plate. The spoon should be to the far right, with the knife to its left. Again, organize in the order of courses served. For example, if serving soup, the soup spoon should be to the far right.
  • Dessert Fork: Directly centered above the dinner plate with the fork teeth facing the right.
  • Coffee Spoon: Directly centered above the dinner plate, above the dessert fork, with the top of the spoon facing the left.

Napkins: There are numerous ways to fold a napkin, but before you try your luck at origami, think “less is more!”

  • Napkin Rings: With so many festive napkin rings to choose from depending on the season and occasion at hand, this is one of my go to options as it’s so quick and looks great! Neatly nestle your napkins in napkin rings and place in the middle of the dinner plate or to the left of the dinner plate by your fork.
  • Folded: In a neat rectangle or square under your fork.
  • Draped: Fold into a rectangle, and drape off the top plate toward your lap.
  • Tucked: Fold into a rectangle, and tuck between the dinner and salad plate with a small portion draping toward your lap.

Glasses: Water glass, red and white wine glasses…yes there is an order in which they should be placed! All should be to the right of your dinner plate at the tip of your knife or spoon. They should be arranged in this order starting at the tip of the knife with your water glass and angling toward the top of the dinner plate with the white then red:

  • Water Glass
  • White Wine Glass
  • Red Wine Glass

Tablescapes: Yes, you should add a few adornments to your tabletop but it doesn’t have to be complex or take your hours to build as simple is best! Think about what’s in season and use its’ bounty. From crabapples to kumquats, and pears, showcase their beauty as they weave throughout your table scape. Branches (like Eucalyptus leaves found at most grocery stores and floral shops), fall leaves and even seashells depending on the season, add an inexpensive touch of the season at hand while providing great depth and purpose.

·Simple Place Setting Adornments: Top each charger, plate or napkin with a seashell, small apple, pear, kumquat or “ingredient” from the season’s bounty as a fun and festive way to welcome each guest to their spot around the table together!

With simple touches like those above, you immediately set the tone for a fun evening ahead.

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Cheers to starting a new tradition around The Table Together!

Sincerely,

 

Tiffany Lewis

Founder and true believer in the power of bringing people around The Table Together!